Someone asked me "do your coaching clients help you deal with your own issues? Do you learn from them about what you should do about your own situation?"
My coaching clients teach me a lot, but part of me wanted to answer "no."
This is because I still feel very separate from my clients' transformations.
Let me explain: My clients make amazing changes to their lives in a very short amount of time of working together. It's pretty crazy. And my favorite thing about coaching is that I can never anticipate the changes they'll end up making, and when they will make them. After a week between sessions, a client will come back telling me things like "I just quit my job and I'm moving across the country" or "I'm going to work in a different field entirely." I'm always delighted, and I love not knowing what's going to happen next.
Clients love attributing the changes they make to me, but truly, in coaching, I'm not in control.
The changes I facilitate in clients' lives are very personal to them and depend on their internal logic. They are living with themselves every day, while I'm only with them for an hour a week. I'm not privy to a client's entire history or to their day-to-day experiences.
I know coaching works, and I know the theory of why it works. But I will always remind clients that their transformations are up to them, and not up to me.