I used to give my power away all the time. As a new employee, I had a senior member of my team constantly take hours of my time every day for pointless "meetings," leaving me no time to actually do my job.
I was exhausted and frustrated, yet when I talked about my frustrations to my coach, I said "it's fine that my team member hijacks my time -- this is what she's used to. But I'll just tell her that it doesn't work *for me.*"
I said "it's fine" maybe 100 times. :P
My coach asked me, "when you say 'it's fine,' how are you giving away your power?"
He was right. Even though I was getting ready to confront my team member, I was still minimizing my power and shrinking away by excusing her actions.
My coach helped me become way sassier to my team member than I was planning to, and I successfully got her off my back with no repercussions for my job. Woooot.
Let me know if you want to hear what I ended up saying to her. Mwahaha.
So I ask again, how are you giving away your power at work? And what are you going to do about it?