As I was gearing up for my recent challenge "Reclaim Your Power At Work" I did some reflecting on my work history in an illuminating session with baller coach Chelsea Quint.
That conversation reaffirmed how much I have given NO FUCKS about rules in my 15+ years of employment, and how much I want to encourage women to do the same.
Maybe it's because I'm an immigrant; maybe it's because my parents grew up in a kibbutz (commune) and didn't work for $; maybe it's because my grandparents were refugees and Holocaust survivors and their "professional success" was wiped away when their livelihoods and lives were taken from them -- who knows.
But my background has led me to completely **throw the rule book out the window** while succeeding at work and feeling like a badass kween.
I know that to achieve professional fulfillment:
**You don't need to suck up to supervisors for recommendations.
**You don't need to apply to lots of jobs.
**You don't need to work long hours to "prove yourself."
**You don't need to change your "problematic" personality.
**You don't need to be nice. In fact, you can be a biiiiitch.
**You don't need to be "productive."
You can really be whatever you want to be and still meet your profesh goals!
And that's what I help my clients to do. I'm not going to teach you how to gain power by accommodating yourself to the workplace. In fact, I will teach you how to make the workplace accommodate to YOU.
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Do you have a boss / client / coworker who pisses you off?
Can you not stop thinking about them and how angry they make you?
I wanted to share my favorite way for dealing with a person who makes me angry, and it may seem counterintuitive.
I do a quick meditation focusing on the person's:
It may feel difficult to imagine this annoying person as "whole" and "resourceful," but try it out. What is possible when you notice these qualities in the person?
For me, I find that this meditation helps me disengage from "fixing" other people.
While I may still confront them about their behaviors, I am less attached to the outcome. I am also less focused on my ego, and on thinking that I know the "right way" this person should behave.
What does this bring up for you?
PS If you are ready to reclaim your power a work in a big way, click here to join me for a 5-day free online challenge "Reclaim Your Power at Work" starting on October 16, noon EST.