Story time: Some days at work, when I feel unsure of myself, in *a matter of minutes*, I go from “what is wrong with me?? I’m the worst ever!” to “Ah ha. I know how I can stop feeling this way now.”
Am I a magical unicorn?
No. I am simply a woman who got fed up with my years-long cycle of self-doubt in the workplace.
As recently as 4 years ago, I started every day by sitting down at my office and saying to myself (and my colleagues): “What am I doing wrong?” “OMG does my boss think I’m slacking off?” “Do I even WANT this job?”
It was exhausting to me and to my colleagues, who all assured me I was fine, I was great, and I should STFU.
It is bonkers to me that by using 3 simple mindset steps, within one year of my constant-worry days, I changed careers, made more $, and actually (gasp) achieved **work-life balance.**
Please don’t go through years of misery like I did. I’m taking what I learned and sharing it with you in my super simple 3-step “Self Doubt, Shut It” guide.
Are you a smart and creative woman who feels bored and frustrated at her job? Does this make you doubt yourself and wonder what you’re doing wrong?
Are you tearing your hair out trying to figure out why you feel so “off” while your friends and family tell you not to worry because “everything is fine”?
Are you soooo sick and tired of this feeling?
If so, save yourself the agonizing.
Download this FREE 3-step guide and get CLARITY on how to end self-doubt and gain confidence and a sense of power in the workplace.
Enjoy wildly decreasing the time you spend “wondering what’s wrong,” and wildly increasing the time you spend creating the work life you want. Shablam.
Growing up, I didn’t always feel like stability and order were mine to have. For years, I created stability and order for myself, by painstakingly taking care of myself.
But sometimes, my need for stability held me back.
For example, when I figured out that what I wanted to do professionally was coach women to heal their work lives. What a strange and seemingly unlucrative profession!
My choice of profession took me for a tailspin. I didn’t feel like I had the resources or gumption to become self-employed and forego a regular paycheck. I was very scared.
Thankfully, I had great mentors who taught me how to create stability even when taking a risk.
I finally took a risk after:
- Saving $$ for my career transition
- Setting up systems in my day that give me a sense of order
- Creating a plan B, plan C, and plan Z
- Interviewing people who have gone through this transition, so I could learn what they did
It’s important for me to share this story with you because I know that healing your work life does take a certain amount of *risk* and *growth*. There are things about it which are uncomfortable and take you out of your comfort zone.
What steps do you take in order to continually take yourself outside of your comfort zone so you can grow?
I hear from a lot of women about their dreams of making more money and working fewer hours.
But when it comes to making their preferences known to their bosses, clients, and spouses – they balk.
After getting a bunch of new responsibilities at work, they feel embarrassed to ask their boss for a raise.
They feel awkward asking their clients to pay them a fair wage for their work.
And they feel weird about asking their spouses to cook and do the dishes every day.
With all that, it’s no wonder that they are working so hard for so little money. They are doing other people’s jobs for them (the boss’s job, the client’s job, the spouse’s job) without getting payment or relief.
I wanted to post this as a reminder that when we feel anxious and overwhelmed, we can ask for the support we need to thrive. We can give our community a chance to give us the resources we need to make that freedom of “more money and less work” possible.
Your thoughts on this idea are welcome -- and if you've had bad experiences asking for support, please chime in.
“I get harassed at work too, but I can handle it.”
This is what I was told by a boss when I tried to report an abusive coworker. The contrast seemed obvious. The boss could handle the harassment, *unlike me.*
Throughout my years in the workplace, I was told again and again that I should be able to “handle” unrelenting long hours, harassment, and a pervading sense that my job was pointless.
After all, I was getting a paycheck. And no one likes a whiny millennial who wants special treatment at work!
I believed it.
I thought that I should buck up and learn to "take it" like the rest of my coworkers.
I no longer believe it. In fact, I no longer believe I have to handle anything that makes me miserable.
In the past few years, I learned that there are a million types of workplaces, and a million ways to make money and support yourself. And that the work life we want for ourselves is possible and in reach.
My clients and I are examples for what it possible in terms of a fulfilling work life. My recent client undid years of unhelpful behavior and set up boundaries with herself and her family so she could stay engaged throughout the workday. (No phone scrolling during the workday, no political talk from family, no fretting about her partner's job when she should be doing her own work, etc. etc.).
Another recent client changed her career path completely and even moved to a different country in order to be able to achieve a fulfilling work-life after years of feeling utterly exhausted.
My clients made these changes not over years, but over a few months.
I want every woman to have the option to create a fulfilling work-life.
It's time to say yes to healing your work life now, and I can help you to make that change through my 3 month coaching program.
If you’ve been depressed and hopeless about your work-life for far too long, you're not alone.