I can't stop second-guessing myself!

"I can't stop second-guessing myself." This is a sentence my clients can't stop saying to me.

Many of my clients suffer from "on the other hand" syndrome. When trying to make a decision, like whether to confront a friend for being flaky, they tell me, "on the one hand, I feel like I should talk to her. But on the other hand, I feel scared. And on the other hand, isn't it good to confront people? But then again, why make a big deal out of it?" And that's just the beginning of their "on the other hand" internal discussion.

It's exhausting!

How can we shorten our time going through "on the other hand" syndrome, and spend more time actually making decisions?

One option is to get out of your head, and instead feel the options in your body:

• Where in your body do you feel the option of talking to your friend?
• Where does the emotion sit in your body?
• What is its shape?
• What is its color?
• What is it blocking?

Do the same for the other option, and any other options that come up.

Don't think of making the decision. Simply do the body work and see what comes up. You may be surprised by what your body tells you.

If you're neurotic like me, interrupting your thoughts and going into the body can be immensely illuminating.

Try this and let me know in the comments what this brings up for you.

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Talitha Neville