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Throw the workplace rule book out the window!

10/18/2017

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As I was gearing up for my recent challenge "Reclaim Your Power At Work" I did some reflecting on my work history in an illuminating session with baller coach Chelsea Quint.

That conversation reaffirmed how much I have given NO FUCKS about rules in my 15+ years of employment, and how much I want to encourage women to do the same.

Maybe it's because I'm an immigrant; maybe it's because my parents grew up in a kibbutz (commune) and didn't work for $; maybe it's because my grandparents were refugees and Holocaust survivors and their "professional success" was wiped away when their livelihoods and lives were taken from them -- who knows.

But my background has led me to completely **throw the rule book out the window** while succeeding at work and feeling like a badass kween.

I know that to achieve professional fulfillment:
**You don't need to suck up to supervisors for recommendations.
**You don't need to apply to lots of jobs.
**You don't need to work long hours to "prove yourself."
**You don't need to change your "problematic" personality.
**You don't need to be nice. In fact, you can be a biiiiitch.
**You don't need to be "productive."

You can really be whatever you want to be and still meet your profesh goals!

And that's what I help my clients to do. I'm not going to teach you how to gain power by accommodating yourself to the workplace. In fact, I will teach you how to make the workplace accommodate to YOU.

💪 💪 💪 💪

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Does Someone At Work Piss You Off?

10/7/2017

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Do you have a boss / client / coworker who pisses you off?

Can you not stop thinking about them and how angry they make you?

I wanted to share my favorite way for dealing with a person who makes me angry, and it may seem counterintuitive.

I do a quick meditation focusing on the person's:
  • Wholeness: The person is complete and not "broken."
  • Diversity: The person can react to situations in diverse ways. We celebrate the diversity of our humankind.
  • Resourcefulness: The person is resourceful and can find new solutions to problems.
  • Freedom: People are free to choose how they respond to situations.
  • Possibility: More is possible than you can imagine for this person.

It may feel difficult to imagine this annoying person as "whole" and "resourceful," but try it out. What is possible when you notice these qualities in the person?

For me, I find that this meditation helps me disengage from "fixing" other people.

​While I may still confront them about their behaviors, I am less attached to the outcome. I am also less focused on my ego, and on thinking that I know the "right way" this person should behave.


What does this bring up for you?

PS If you are ready to reclaim your power a work in a big way, click here to join me for a 5-day free online challenge "Reclaim Your Power at Work" starting on October 16, noon EST.
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